Archive for September, 2008

I’m not dead yet

Tuesday, September 16th, 2008

I’m not dead yet. This is what the T shirt Andrea picked out and I got for her when we took Jesse to go see Spamalot on Broadway. This is how she frequently approached her cancer. This is the Andrea we all felt some sense of awe about. Thisanything.jpg is also how I feel about this blog. So my sweeties (something else she might say) After a long wait with no internet connection, here we are again. I’m hoping that we can all come together on the idea that it is not yet time to let the memory of the beautiful person that Andrea was and the ideals she stood for slip away quietly. In fact not many were privy to much about this woman that she did quietly, I shall always consider myself fortunate for being one of the few.

The kids all seem to be doing well. There are a lot of ups and downs in this period of much adjustment but we are all pulling through. New house almost unpacked (thanks to many beautiful friends). My mom and step father (very much a father) have been here helping me with the baby and putting the finishing touches on everything. the kids are getting into the swing of things in new schools while Jesse kicks it old school. I am trying to get used to being a single parent and fall into a routine. I think thats gonna take a minute though.

So I got tattooed last night. Its a pretty dead punk rock girl with her head on a leopard spot pillow with black roses in the background and ribbons reading anything for love. I asked one of my coworkers to draw it up right after Andrea passed. It is a great tattoo, though when I looked at it this morning I felt it was a bit more morbid than I had anticipated much in the vein of how I felt about Andreas death. The important part, what it stands for, is very relevant though. ANYTHING FOR LOVE. If I learned anything from the experience of loving and losing such a lovely human being it is what is actually important. Had I to do it all over again, I would still be right where I am today. I would still have a baby. I would still feel the loss of a dead wife. I would still be tattooing. I would still have amazing friends. The only thing I would have done differently would be to worry less about money and career, and maybe take that extra hour a day and love my wife even more (and I did love her well). I hope to take this lesson (and I can always just read my leg) with me and apply it well to the rest of my life. To all present and future relationships be they platonic, family, or well you know the other kind. These are the real investments to be made. So please go out and give someone worthy that extra hour soon. And when you are feeling blue, know that you are loved.

Home is where the fun is

Thursday, September 4th, 2008


Hi everyone! Sorry that I haven’t updated you all in a little while. Classes started for me on Labor Day when most of you were out at barbecues. So Monday was first day of class, and it was really easy…I only have one class, Calculus, on Mondays…at 4pm. So basically, here’s my classes…

Electrical Engineering Practicum is where we get to practice and learn about the tools and some of the skills necessary in Electrical engineering. I also have Intro to Psychology, which so far in my favorite course. I mean, come on my mom graduated from Temple with a degree in Psychology…this is gonna be cake, I already know everything 😉

I’m also taking a First Year Enrichment course…meh and a college chemistry course (my professor is either from Australia or New Zealand) which I like. I was taking a History class on World War II, but I had to drop it. He wanted us to read a memoir on the beginning of WWII and write a 9-page critique of it by next Thursday…sorry, not right now. Instead I’m now taking Intro to Ethics, which is on Saturdays from 9am to 1pm, which sucks, but whatever. I’m having lots of fun, eating healthy, biking as much as possible (RIT has a road that goes all the way around it called “The Loop”. It’s approximately 3.14 miles long with one steep climb that goes uphill from either direction. It took me about 30 minutes to bike the whole thing…), and trying to make a lot of friends.

So before I go, let me tell you guys a little about where I’m living. I live in Engineering House (that’s it in the picture above), which last year won best house. It isn’t actually a house though. E-House actually is the top floor of Nathaniel Rochester Hall, and in order to become a member you need to fill out an application. This application is then reviewed by 7 members of the house that make up a committee. Everything about the house is democratic. Everyone has the right to vote and have input on things in the house. Everyone must participate in one committee on floor, and everyone has to sign the house constitution (yes, there is one…and it’s 20 pages long…I read it). In short, I love it here, I love everyone here. This is definitely one of the happier times in my life.

Hope to see everyone soon!